Traveling is truly one of the most inspiring things I do that keeps me connected to my calling – getting to meet other people, seeing and learning about others’ realities, struggles, triumphs and daily rituals.
While on the final family trip of the summer, I had the privilege of connecting with some of my favorite people and life-long friends. For quite some time, I have been shifting in my attractor-factor and for me, I noticed a strong common thread tying my community together.
Let me set the stage:
- We are all in our mid 40’s- early 50’s with growing kids who are facing college or are in college
- Some are looking at the next career chapter after a successful run so far with starting something new or taking a leap of faith or buying a company
- We are living life in a fast-paced yet knowingly unsustainable way with regard to sleep and over-scheduling and showing up less than 100%
- Our parents are getting older and we seem to be struggling with how to best support them
- We are finding we aren’t liking what we see in the mirror as much and we are realizing that we are not necessarily putting ourselves first on a daily basis when it comes to the priorities our actions are taking no matter how hard we try
Sound familiar? Well, I’m right in there with you and so are most of my friends.
Shall I say it? The struggle is REAL and you are in good company.
So what do we do?
My first book, “DO THIS” is a culmination of my business, lifestyle and personal coaching from the past decade and I would like to share with you the number 1 biggest influencing change you can make to help you stay on track, regardless of your age and life transitions.
DO THIS: Redesign Your Core Values as they change as we age and enter into new decision phases of our lives. What worked at 20, didn’t work at 30 … and so on.
How to Design Your Core Values:
1. List your values in order of priority. Pick up to 5.
(these are not goals, they are values, and you may need to do this with your partner.)
Once you do this, you can start to base all your decisions with these in mind. I like to call it my “yes” filter. If a choice you are faced with doesn’t support ALL of your values, then the quick answer is “no”. If it does, than it is worth exploring.
If you do THIS one thing, you will start to …
1. find more Time with less time cogitating on what to do next and live presently rather than in the past or future
2. feel more Happiness because you will be doing things that create a high or positive and fulfilling emotional response
3. experience higher Intelligence with more clarity and creativity around the positive cognitive space you have created
4. stick to it because it’s Simple and it gives you a constant road map when you are faced with choices on a daily basis.
When I look back at my own life, I will be the first to say I have made my share of mistakes, and I can’t say that I have had it figured out any better than anyone else. But when I look at why people have come to me for advice for the better part of my life, it is because I usually am able to empathically read the situation, put my finger on the (usually emotional) block and prescribe a method to their madness and offer strategy in many arenas through my own experiences.
When it comes to making transitional life decisions, I do try to apply the same techniques to my own life and it has gotten me to many new fearless levels of success, happiness, influence and better relationships and overall quality of life. We all need a method to our madness and I hope THIS tool can work for you as well.